Most of your team and organization’s unproductive conflicts can be turned into creative problem-solving exercises if all involved focus on impact and effect first. Don’t worry about silly distractions like personal history and personalities. Don’t worry about how you got to such a bad place in the first place. Just get everyone focused on a shared picture of the impact you’re trying to make together and the positive effect of that impact on those that matter most.
Anyone on your team who doesn’t understand and believe in the value of the ultimate effect of the impact of what they are doing and causing to get done probably needs to be on a different team. For everyone else, focusing on impact and effect has power beyond what most would ever expect. It can serve as your North Star, always pointing the right way forward.